- Here’s the deal!
Seriously, I’ve literally known her all my life. Okay, since freshman year of high school and people I’m like 30! We always kept in touch, but I moved away at the most critical time in my life. 16! Yeah. Imagine that! Growing up in IL, traveling way to FL and figuring out how to navigate a new life with new people. It was terrible and scary. I hooked up with terrible people that I didn’t discover were terrible until years later. When you’re young you have a different perspective of friendship. You think it’s who calls the most, who clubs with you, who listens to you cry Etc. Who gives you stuff and all. Yes, all that’s important, but as I’ve developed and learned I’ve begun to understand what real friendship is. It’s a give and take. It’s not always 50/50, it’s truthfully like a soul connection and really orchestrated by God. There’s lots of prayer involved and even more seasons to endure. There’s no distant nor time in the spirit. It’s interesting, Pint and I could have talked 1/2 a year while I was in college and it just seemed like we missed nothing! We’ve gone through moss together. We’ve dealt with trauma together. Health foolery. Etc. Although, Our lives were vastly different in our twenties somehow we managed.. I was married, had babies, and Pint was like, yesssss turn up! It was more about effort than anything! There were many times I wanted to be around that I couldn’t or vice versus. We’ve had our disagreements too… over really stupid silly stuff. For example, one time, in high school she totally left me in the hallway for a boy. But I did that too. LOL! Or one time she dated this boy, I so hated… wait, I did that too.. or this one time, I stayed over her house and she was up talking to this boy ALL night. Like, I couldn’t sleep, and I woke up early, and she was still sleep and wouldn’t get up! No, I didn’t do that, but you catch my drift. We’ve even gotten into shenanigans together! Like, this one time, we thought it would be a great idea to get on motorcycles with complete strangers in Chicago! smh! Or that one time, we would be in Gym class singing all the gospel songs and oddly enough start an instrumental version of a song that shall remain nameless!
- What I’ve learned..
Fighting in friendship somehow defines who we are and how long we’ll be. What’s more important is that every time we could see each other we could. When we’ve needed each other I think we’ve been there and over time I’ve had to evaluate my real friends. Friendship is a funky thing.. something you can’t really measure by speech. It’s not measured by the length of time or the amount or activities because let’s admit. That could be artificial too. It’s measures in terms of a family dynamic. if something happened to me, her world would stop. She’d help my family pick up the pieces. If my kids were in trouble, she would make her business to assist. When I got married, She was here! When he left, she was there…. when I got remarried, her presence wasn’t demanded, her prayers were solicited and her physical self was still there. When she had a bad breakup, I was around. There were times when I spirit was alerted to make contact and I did. Magically, it was what she needed. Now, on to motherhood. She’s the Godparent to my absolute last.
They say you’ll never have many friends. You’ll have many associates, but friends to speak at your funeral – that’s different. What would your friends do for you?! Would they give you their last? Are they only there for a phone call? Do they build you up? Do they tolerate or celebrate you? It’s the little things in all honesty! Are they unselfish, about you, demonstrate love for you in all that you do? Really consider that after reading this.
- Today, is her day…
A day that if I could be with her I could. Because the last time we were together on her day, life was something else. LOL! Help me wish my dear friend a happy bday! She inspires me, motivates me, makes me angry, and makes it all better at the same time. She’s an absolute giver, lover, goofball and she’s irreplaceable in my life. Thank you for always loving me, supporting me, and cheering me on even when I couldn’t do it myself. I haven’t always been the best, I’ve not done many things the way I should have, and heck, I’m likely still gonna be weird, but my love for you runs deeps. You’re such an amazing person. I pray this season is everything and some! May God promote, prosper, enlarge, and continue to bless you with the desires of your heart. P.s. now can you tell me what you want because if I just send something it’ll likely be food. It’s the pregnancy man.