So much has changed for KylaNicole, and if that is the case for me, I KNOW that this the case for you!
Often times, when seasons or moments shift we encounter rocky times. We encounter a series of bruises and bumps and it feels a little overwhelming. You find yourself down in the dumps, stressed, discouraged, and at times willing to throw in the towel. I know this feeling all too well. If your life is anything like mine, hectic is sometimes your middle name. So much that you may not be sure how you’ll survive the next minute, let alone the next day.
In times like this we tend to look for support or aid and are disappointed by certain responses from people. We want people to really dig in and listen, or just come into our world. We hear, catch statements like, “Hang in there” “It’s going to be okay” or ” Stay encouraged” and this frustrates us. When we hear those phrases it somewhat gives us feelings of hopelessness or the idea that no one will ever understand our struggle. Truth is, it is tough for people to understand your individual struggle because they are not you! Each of our lives are complex to a certain degree and sometimes people relate to us in different aspects. Sometimes people just don’t know what to say, or they don’t know how to relate and say the best thing at that time. If we really exam this and think about it, what could they say that would make you feel better anyhow? Exactly, not much!
So, what I started to do in these situations was see it from their perspective. Maybe they couldn’t find the words, or they had a bad day, or they didn’t want to say anything else to bring you discomfort. Instead of being upset that I was provided a generic response or not the one I desired I began to be happy that someone cared enough to simply try and encourage me! Me! Even though I had a bad day, someone took a chance and approached me to encourage me not knowing what they were walking into. That’s a big deal because they stepped out of themselves for me. This changed my perspective because I began to see other areas of my problematic day in a good light. Simply telling myself, “I made it”, or “look at the bright side – I am home.” It forced me to realize that It could have truly been worse. When I did that, I became conscious of the simple truth that change and challenges are good. They make me better, they force me to deal outside my comfort zone and it helps me learn better coping strategies other than sulking. Slowly, but surely, seeing it from a another angle has become my first response opposed to my last.
Stay encouraged, you will make it!
Our difficulty does not reside in the situation, but rather the response and mindset that we see it in.